| You probably thought your thought your life and | | | | this healing process will literally determine the |
| your marriage were going along quite well. Yes, | | | | quality of your future life.1. Give yourself |
| there were challenges and difficulties, but you | | | | permission to grieve. Going through divorce is like |
| really believed the good outweighed the bad. | | | | grieving the death of your relationship, your |
| Through the ups and downs you hung in, hoping in | | | | dreams and your future together. Let yourself |
| time that your partner would see the light and | | | | really feel the emotional pain and move through it |
| decide to treat you with love and respect. You | | | | naturally by journaling about your feelings and |
| hoped in time that you would be able to live the | | | | crying the tears that need to be cried.2. Hold on |
| dreams that you held precious in your heart of | | | | to your intention to heal, forgive, and move |
| hearts.Then came the ugly word DIVORCE. You | | | | forward. Divorce can be very painful for a time, |
| were shocked! You cried. You pleaded. You | | | | but having the intention to forgive and move |
| begged for another chance, but the answer was | | | | forward helps you to learn what you need to |
| still NO. Divorce papers were served. You were | | | | learn and start over in a new way, instead of |
| left picking up the pieces of a life you thought you | | | | being angry and bitter for the rest of your life! |
| shared.So, now it's time to go forward. You read | | | | Remember that your divorce could be the best |
| magazine articles, you gather books, you talk to | | | | thing that ever happened to you if you choose to |
| your family and friends, you find a therapist, you | | | | use it as an opportunity for emotional healing and |
| join a support group and you buy new clothes. | | | | personal growth.3. Create a healthy support |
| Through it all you may feel empty and alone, | | | | system of true friends who support your |
| sometimes worthless, sometimes angry, | | | | personal growth through this experience. Who you |
| sometimes scared of the future.You find yourself | | | | choose as friends at this time could easily make |
| wondering, "What does it take to really heal?" As | | | | the difference between staying stuck in the anger |
| a psychotherapist, I deal with people every day | | | | and pain for the rest of your life or moving |
| who are going through emotional pain like yours. | | | | forward to create a whole new life for yourself! |
| I'm writing these healing steps for you, because I | | | | If you want a positive future, choose friends who |
| want you to know that the choices you make in | | | | help you grow! |